Love yourself. Unless you have better things to do.
Love yourself. This mantra, the one that tells you to accept who you are and own your body as it is, should become your ultimate power. So why our society decided to emphasize ways to change yourself instead of helping us to accept and appreciate who we are?
Jen Sincero, author of one of my favorite book You are a badass reminds us that you decide what is good for you and your whole world (including you) is determine by how you choose to perceive your reality. And it starts with your body.
Love yourself, or how-to-accept-your-body-as-it-is. This is definitely easier said than done and I'm the first having a hard time when I look at myself in the mirror. Our brain tends to gravitate towards the negative, always seeing the “bad” that people don’t even notice on you, focusing on how to change what you don't like instead of accepting your body and living in peace with it. Loving yourself is one of the best way to show respect to your body and start to live an awesome life.
I know it's not as easy as it looks like. It can be hard to get out of our own doubts and negative talks that often are the result of years of insecurities. I've been there and to be honest, I still have days on and days off. My years of anorexia left me with a low self-esteem and a lot of doubts and fears. According to my mind, I was never good enough, I was fat and not attractive. I’m still in the process to learn how to deeply and sincerely love myself but I'm just grateful for the life I’m living right now.
While there is no magic formula that will immediately give you the confidence to make you change, you have the power to change the way you perceive yourself and start living an awesome life by loving what The Universe gave you and being in peace with your body and mind.
Here’s 4 steps you can take to truly love yourself:
1. Stop the complaints. You don’t want to spend your energy hating yourself and trying to be someone else. You have so much to gain by using this energy to reach your dreams and goals. I remember when I arrived in the US for my first time (in 2014), I felt completely cheered up by all this positive energy I was surrounded by. It is well-known that French people complain all the time (not so cliché) and I was not an exception. Being surrounded by positive people, receiving compliments from strangers made me realize that I am more than my thoughts.
Complaining drains a lot of energy for 0 benefits. Change the things you have the power to control and use your energy to actually compliment yourself and think positively instead of these negative talks that
2. Don’t compare yourself to others. Remember you are unique, and this is what makes you incredibly beautiful. Comparing yourself to others will bring you more insecurities and doubts and you really don’t need that at this point. We all have our insecurities and you don't know what others are going through. Be inspired but never compare yourself.
3. Do good. Feel good. I'vee been feeling way better after a good sweating session at the gym. Moving your body and exercising every day is a good way to thank your body. Your body is basically working for you all day long so why not spend a few hours of your week giving back to it. You don’t have to spend hours and hours at the gym, try to move your body but more importantly, do what works for you.
4. Write down positive affirmations every day. Nowadays, it is getting easy to criticize ourselves and never be satisfied with the way we look like. I’m truly convinced that we are more than our thoughts and flaws, we are more than what we accept to see in the mirror. You need to show yourself some kindness and compassion, you need to respect the body you are living with every day and be happy. Starting your day by writing down positive affirmations will help you to become aware of who you are, how great you are and will shape your reality. I like to start my affirmations with I AM…
I AM BEAUTIFUL
I AM SMART
I AM STRONG
LOVE YOURSELF BECAUSE
You are BEAUTIFUL
You are INCREDIBLE
You are ENOUGH.
You will have some on-and-off and it is totally ok - it won’t be a peaceful journey. This is a long process and it won’t change overnight but as long as you commit yourself to be kind and patient with your body, you are on the right pace.
Remember, you owe your body to live remarkable just as you are.
Love yourself. No matter what.